Life coaching


Life coaching

Life is seldom approached as a holistic interpretation.  Every part of your life is important and integrated.

We usually get stuck on one undesirable part of life, and neglect the other parts that eventually deteriorates because the focus and energy is on fixing another part in your life.  It creates a domino-effect and results in a downward spiral, but this can easily be turned around to build a well-balanced wheel of life.   Not everyone is equipped to deal with these challenges.  Life coaching can assist you in working towards and managing a balanced wheel of life.  The “wheel of life” is technique frequently used in coaching.  It shows the different parts of life that incorporates your life and supported by norms and values. They are:

  • Family & Home
  • Financial & Career
  • Mental & Education
  • Physical & Health
  • Social & Cultural
  • Spiritual & Ethical

Note: Naming conventions can differ and each part can also expand to a more granular level.   The wheel of life helps identifying areas in your life where you are are stuck or unhappy and pinpoints where to focus your priorities and attention. Once you know which areas you want to focus on, the next step is to set goals in each of the areas that will help you achieve your goals or accomplish fulfilment.   I can assist you in any of the following situations and many more through my skillset as coach and personal experiences.




Relationships

Relationships forms a big part in managing your wheel of life.  You have relationships with yourself, your partner, family and friends, colleagues and even strangers you meet.

There are many people stuck in unhappy or unfulfilled relationships, for vast reasons or circumstances.  Engaging and secure relationships can be an ongoing source of support and happiness. Good relationships in any part of your life, strengthen all aspects of life; your health, mind, finance, health and career. However, if a specific relationship isn’t supportive, it can be a tremendous drain and have an effect on other relationships. Relationships get better or worse depending on how much or how little we understand and invest in them.




Sexual Orientation.  

No-one chooses their sexuality and it is not a conscious choice, but you can choose whether and how to act on your feelings.

People are afraid of admitting they are gay or bisexual and hide their true feelings or act as others would expect them to because they fear being rejected, ostracised, ridiculed or rejected by loved ones and friends and disappoint them.  This in itself, creates huge emotional conflict.   Acknowledging that you are gay can take many years.  This realisation is the first stage of coming out.  This is an overwhelming and nerve-wrecking time.  The next stage involves going public.  This is where families and friends are confronted with mixed emotions, shock and confusion.  Life coaching techniques can assist both parties to prepare, understand, adjust and accept it.  Life coaching can assist the gay person through all the phases of self realization and acceptance, how to approach coming out and to deal with the reactions of everyone.  Life coaches can also assist family and friends to deal with the unexpected news and changes.




Work/Home Balance

Coping with stress, time management, conflict management, working smarter, making time to relax.

Work–life balance is the effective and fair distribution of time , energy and priority given between “work” (career and ambition) and “lifestyle (health, pleasure, fun, family and spiritual)   High demanding and pressured work environments (both parents/spouses work) and increased activities and expectations of children’s academic, sport social and cultural involvement, makes it challenging to effectively manage time and productivity without exhaustion and burnout. You need boundaries to achieve balance between your personal and professional lives and finding ways to integrate the two without neglecting either.  Life Coaching techniques can assist clients to achieve and maintain life-work balance by:

  • Identify which area needs attention
  • Create structure and routine – Allocate time for everything and plan free time.
  • Be present, committed and consistent when and where you are applying time and energy.



Obesity

Weight related issues largely arise from mental and emotional challenges. It has become an increasing and concerning phenomenon in South Africa, including children and teenagers.

People know what they should eat, or not, to lose weight – the challenge is that they do not do what they know they should do.   Obesity is a serious medical condition and emotional burden, that can cause depression, low self-esteem, complications such as metabolic syndrome, high blood pressure, heart disease, diabetes, high blood cholesterol and sleep disorders. Management of weight issues requires lifestyle changes, such as healthy eating and increased physical activity.  In extreme cases of morbid obesity, surgery may be an option.  Whilst many we-known weight-loss programs and medication guides and assist you to lose weight, the real issue or reason is never dealt with effectively. With personal experience, having walked the journey myself, I can assist clients (and their families) to identify and eliminate those issues that prevents them from following a healthy lifestyle.  In the process I facilitate the exposure of the emotional issues, beliefs that limit optimal functioning and self-sabotage patterns that prevent clients from following a healthy lifestyle.  With a new thought process and appropriate mind-set, clients could avoid yo-yo dieting and be empowered to enjoy everyday food in moderation.  That is, making food your friend and not your enemy.




Goal-setting

To have a meaningful life, you need well-defined goals that compliment your values.

It provides guidance to achieve your dreams.  You need to visualise what you want, recognise and acknowledge your potential to achieve them.  Many people do it on their own, but some need an accountability partner.  The techniques used in life coaching is structured and measurable, and with the commitment of the client, very successful.  Through repetitive goal setting, it eventually becomes a habit through correct behaviour and consistent application.



Values vs. behaviour application

Our values describe our thoughts, words and actions.

Our values are important because they help us to grow and develop.  The decisions we make are a reflection of our values and beliefs, and they are always directed towards a specific purpose.  Your behaviour should always be aligned to your values.  If it doesn’t, you either need to change your behaviour or the re-evaluate your values.  This approach is a thread that links all types of changes you wish to make in your life. This technique identifies the person’s values and evaluates the person’s behaviour against their values.  Changes are made and an action plan populated to assist the person to change behaviour, if the value it is linked to, is important to the person.


         
     

Make the Choice to take the Chance to make the Change!

My sole purpose is to make a difference in people’s life. To equip them with the right tools (mindset and thinking) to enable them to improve and enhance their life quality through positive neuro-plasticity.  The services I offer to achieve this are as follows can be conducted in any combination Individual, group or corporate sessions

 

Operating Hours

Mon-Fri: 07:00 to 19:00

Sat:  10:00 to 14:00

 

Contact Info

083 212 6016


leoni@coachdeconing.co.za

 

Elephant Hills Estate, Arizona Crescent, Northcliff, Johannesburg, 2195, South Africa